February 24, 2014

23 things I learned surviving 23: reflections from a potluck

Do you remember when "potluck" went something like this?

You bring the chips.
You bring the salsa.
You bring the paper napkins.

Well, the potluck last weekend went a little more like this...

There were homemade poptarts, perfect fritatas, mint chocolate chip scones, mimosas...

Thank you to my friends who filled me with love and warm fuzzies with a special birthday brunch potluck. You shared some shocking levels of maturity through your homemade delights and usage of real silverware. You made me feel special, and you made me feel older... or something.

What happened to 23? It was swallowed up too fast. Definitely a few tough chews in there. I learned quite a lot... mostly from my mistakes... mostly from my experiences at work. So let's start there.

23 things I've learned from surviving 23:
Work less. Consistent 12 hour days are not okay. Consistent 16 hour days are really not okay. 
Your boss makes all the difference. Find a good one. 
Manage your manager and manage his/her expectations. 
Stand strongly against disrespect. 
Stop eating lunch at your desk. 
Sitting for ten hours a day is the worst thing you could do for your body and mind. 
Work and life should complement each other and share some mutual respect for each other. 
Nothing can compensate for team culture. Be part of a team where kindness and humor are integrated into its fibers.  
Make personal relationships with coworkers and thank them often with baked goods. These people are your most valuable resources. 
You have complete control of your life. If something isn't working well for you, either actively make it work or find something else. 
Focus is a discipline. Finish what you start. The less often you do so, the more difficult it is. 
Writing is a muscle. You don't use it, you lose it. Use it more often. 
Make time for trees. 
And friends. 
Allow yourself to be vulnerable. 
Make a damn decision every once in a while. 
If you're generally uninspired, find inspiration. 
Book club is truly wine club... just as everyone says.  
It's possible for a Floridian to survive winter. 
Surviving winter is easier when you have earmuffs that play music. 
Capture moments- good and bad. Record them and remember them. 
Recognize your value and make sure you are being valued as such. 
Protect yourself. Protect yourself from yourself and protect yourself from everything and everyone else.

And now for some games and a birthday wish.

24 will be much, much better... I feel it already.

1 comment:

  1. Can I like this post for 100 times! You are so wise to recognize these lessons and to put in writing when you are just 23! I am so happy to see that you had a wonderful day!